The 3 Things You Need To Be Happy
Is there a word that has more definitions than "happiness"? The pursuit of happiness, therefore, takes on many different forms. Some of us chase the love of another person. Some of us chase success in school or our careers. Then some of us chase some other kind of achievement. What we all have in common is that we think what we are chasing will bring us the kind of moment we see at the end of movies. You know, the one where everyone is smiling and dancing, while some super cheerful song hums in the background. Does that actually cultivate the happiness we originally set out for? That's a question only that person can answer.
Happiness can seem pretty complex. But it is in fact a science. And according to Dr. Dan Baker, author of What Happy People Know, there are actually only three things you need to be happy. This insight completely transformed my lifestyle and perspective. Read on to see just why.
It's true, if you have your health, you have everything. You can do anything. You can be anyone.
The word "wellness" is certainly hot right now and creates this umbrella of all of the elements that make up a healthy being. To be truly healthy, one must be healthy in mind, body, and spirit. What does that look like? It's different for every person, too. Personally, I like to think about it as effortlessly moving from a spin class to a kitchen to a guided meditation and getting positive energy from each experience.
Whatever that may look like for you, the most important thing is to understand that your happiness depends on your health. Dr. Baker explains this so well, expressing that both physically and spiritually, we cannot be happy unless we prioritize our well being. And if you think about it, it makes sense. Now that doesn't mean you have to be in Olympian shape or a meditation guru. It just means putting energy into your wellness.
I like to ask myself each morning when I wake up, "How will I care for my mind, body, and spirit today?" In fact, it's a great question to ask yourself before you plan out your week. That way, you can schedule in time to give the necessary energy to your health intention that it so desperately deserves.
Bottom line: your well being matters. You cannot be happy without it.
We are not and cannot be alone in the Universe. We need each other. We have to have some form of a tribe of people who care about who we are as our truest selves. It doesn't have to be a Taylor Swift-sized squad. It just needs to be at least one other soul whom we feel connected to.
In the hustle of everyday life, it can be hard to prioritize our relationships with family and friends. But, as Dr. Baker explains, the data is there that proves the vitality that this kind of connection brings to our lives.
We all have a purpose. Life is kind of this big treasure map of figuring out exactly what it is. The problem? Well, for one, a map probably hasn't just been dropped off at your doorstep. But you can tap into your inner guide, your intuition, and, just like a TV show live tweet, it will be sure to drop some major spoilers for you.
Did you take a film class and become obsessed with editing? That didn't happen by accident. Did you try a new fitness class and it completely changed your lifestyle? That wasn't just dumb luck. Did you read a book that shook you to your core? There was a reason you grabbed that book off the shelf.
When we are following that treasure map, we won't just find it at the final destination point. It will be weaved throughout the entire journey.
This probably seems pretty obvious, right? I agree. It makes sense that if we are healthy, have great friendships, and are doing what we love that we would be happy. Maybe it is that simple. Maybe the concept of balance is just that–the equal prioritization of health, relationships, and purpose. Dr. Baker explained that you cannot have happiness without one of those three elements. They must be equal players.
While this idea may seem simple, the simplicity of it was actually why it was so impactful for me. We are constantly being told of all of these things we need to be happy. Usually it is painted in the "having it all" category. Let's be real here, we are all crazy overwhelmed by those three words and we don't even know what they totally mean. But the health-relationships-purpose trio seems a lot more feasible.
What can you do with this information? For one, you can reprioritize. I realized that there was a lot of clutter in my life and started cleaning it out, both figuratively and literally. It's a good method for ridding the unnecessary stress that can pile up without you even noticing.
It's not that you have to go from zero to hero on your quest for happiness. Baby steps work just fine. What I noticed was that with each step I took, I got a better glimpse of my truth–who I really am at my core–and felt supremely happier.
Your pursuit of happiness is your own. The good news is, it's not that complicated.